5 Things you don’t ask a woman over 30
What is it about society that makes everyone think they are an expert on how a woman over 30 should live. I’ve never seen so much energy put into anything else as much. I reached out to few women, and although our list was never ending we came up with the 5 most annoying questions that we wish people would stop asking!
When are you getting married?
Respectively, the average white woman is married by the age 26 while the average black woman isn’t married until the age of 30. Even though black women tend to wait, their divorce rates are still higher. A smart woman knows the odds are against her to begin with and that patience is key when it comes to picking a life partner. There shouldn’t ever be an age cap on a decision like that.
The other woman doesn’t even want to get married. She’s against the constitution of marriage entirely. She wants the freedom to do whatever she pleases and not have to answer to anyone but herself and it’s her right. Not being married doesn’t make a woman lonely either. Getting proposed to isn’t the hardest thing in the world to achieve and she’s most likely already turned down a few offers so please stop looking at this woman like a woman that nobody wants. If she wanted to be married she would be.
Why are you always out?
Who told anybody that a hard working woman cannot enjoy the fruits of her hard labor with music and drinks?! When you ask this question, do you know if her home is taken care of? Her husband/man and children might encourage it. Stop telling women that they need to sit down after all they’ve done and been through. A woman should be allowed to do whatever she wants and not have to live her life without fear of sparking any insecurities that you are dealing with yourself.
When do you plan on buying a house?
First things first, being a homeowner is a lot of work! Please keep in mind everyone wants to be a homeowner. It’s extremely close minded to look down on someone because they don’t share the same ‘American Dream’ views as you do. At this stage of life a person is either taking the steps to become a homeowner or they aren’t. Stop pushing your traditions on other people. These type of women are seeking more out of life than to be trapped in a 30 year mortgage with hopes that their kids will want to deal with the house after their death. Other women want to buy but know how hard homeownership. Rather than just buying because everyone thinks it’s the right thing to do, she does her research, repairs her credit so she can get the best rates and finds the perfect home that they wouldn’t mind living in or renting out for a lifetime. These women know that selling a house is not easy so they are making their decisions wisely.
Aren’t you tired of working?
The infamous “girl boss” label. Recently social media millennials have made it horrible to not own your own business. I know they are rare but some women would rather climb the corporate ladder and be the boss than to deal with the stress of being a business owner and the responsibility that comes with it. They understand how hard it is to start and maintain a business.
Other women may want their own business but they are working because they HAVE to. These women are preparing their business proposals and getting a check while doing it. Both a smart and both are “getting to the bag”.
When are you having kids?
This is the worst question of them all! For one, if a woman hasn’t had a child by the age of 30 it’s either one of the two things. She doesn’t want to have children and at this point I’m sure she’s tired of answering this question with the return of the awkward “why don’t you want children” look. The other woman? She does want children and can’t. Whether the time isn’t right, she hasn’t found the right partner or if she physically can’t, all perspectives shouldn’t have to be constantly explained. It’s hurtful.
I know you read these questions and shook your head while reading them. You know you’ve asked a woman these questions before, you probably had no idea how much she hates answering. Stop letting society brain wash you into thinking you’re an over 30 expert because you aren’t. You have no idea what these women are going through, and if you weren’t there at her New Years Ever vision board party, she does not have to tell you her plans for the year so stop asking her.
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