In honor of Mommy May we thought it would be nice to laugh and debunk some of these single mother stereotypes. There’s so much out there to be said about single moms, mostly bad, but how much of it is true in 2019? Single moms of all races are flourishing. There are even women today who are choosing to be single moms for their own reasons. Instead of looking down on them you should be commending them. Below are some things we know to be false. Although there may be somethings that we didn’t identify with being a single mom, it doesn’t mean that others will read this and feel the same. Every situation is different.
Most single moms receive public assistance.
While some moms receive some sort of assistance at the beginning of mommy hood, most of them don’t qualify for anything after they go back to work. Especially if they are middle class and receive the smallest amount of child support. We heard a saying before that said being middle class is worse than low class and that couldn’t be more true. You would think because you work and take care of children alone that the world would cut you a little slack but, yeah, not gonna happen.
Single women are looking for potential fathers for their children.
While this is partially true, most women do want a good man in their lives that serves as a good father figure. We just don’t know anybody who is actively seeking for someone to claim their children. Single mothers are usually really independent and are apprehensive about letting you even meet their children. So don’t flatter yourself men, she is calling you for her own personal interest, not for her children.
Single Mother’s give their kids fathers a hard time after a break up.
It’s 2019. Women are less concerned with what men are doing. If the men are holding up their end of the bargain, single mothers tend to be extremely understanding. Most of them don’t ask much and would prefer time spent with children over financial support. I can guarantee you, if a father plays an active role in their kids lives, money becomes less of an issue because you’re splitting the responsibilities. While we will agree that some women are extremely money hungry and make it hard for men to be good dads, most women just want their kids to be happy.
Most single moms come from broken homes.
This one is the furthest from the truth. Most women we know that are single moms have a very active father/and or father figures in their lives. Because they are so familiar with what genuine love from a man should feel like they tend to settle for less.
Being a single mom isn’t easy. That’s what we know to be certain. What we don’t know is why people have made up all of these horrible assumptions about them. Most women are raising their children a lot different than the generation before them. Most have amicable relationships with their kids fathers. Some of these women even choose single mother hood by choice, adopting alone or choosing in vitro. They are earning degrees, working 40 hours a week, helping with homework, attending school events and tend to make a lot happen alone. Like we said before all situations are different, but for the most part every single mom you meet will put to rest any doubt that you thought about them. We can almost guarantee you will fall in love with their persistence and drive.
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