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To Whom It May Concern

Checking in to see how everyone is doing. 2020 has been a lot to deal with.  The pandemic has caused a lot of mixed emotions in itself. I know it has me rethinking a lot of things. I had no idea how bad my anxiety would be this year. While dealing with COVID and having concern for family and friends who lost their jobs, we were dealt the deaths of Breonna Taylor and Ahmaud Arbery. Shortly after, we had to watch a white woman threaten a black man with the police. We watched her call 911, telling them that there was an African American man in Central Park and she felt her life was endanger. Reminding us of the injustice of Central 5, she screamed in the phone while almost choking her dog to death. We sat angry with all of the shit that was going on, trying our hardest to stay sane until May 25th. An African American man by the name of George Floyd was accused of using a counterfeit 20.00 bill. Because of this, for 8 minutes and 46 seconds we watched a police officer pin him down by p
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Love after a Fuck Boy/Girl

So you finally did it. You finally ended that bittersweet toxic relationship and it probably took you 20 tries to get it right. None of that matters. Only thing that matters now is you’re free. If you’ve been in this situation like I have, you know leaving that person alone is actually easier than moving on. It’s funny because I know that you’ve picked yourself up, stared at yourself in the mirror like: “It’s on”, “I’m about to fuck the summer up”, “I’m out here”.    You bought all the nicest outfits, reinvented your entire look, bought tickets to the hottest beaches and had a great couple of months after your breakup.  One day, after all the fun and all the trips, something triggered you. Whether it was a holiday, a wedding, or a baby shower. Something clicked, and you’re like ok I’m ready to try this shit again.  Now that you've established that you’re ready to start dating again.  You get the ball rolling however you do it.  Sliding in DM’s, Tinder, Airdrop in the c
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Quarantine Crazy

 Hey friend! Long time no see.  How is everyone holding up during these trying times?  I hope you all are staying safe and stimulating your minds.  I know you haven't heard from me in a while, I miss you as much as you miss me.  Your girl is actually in the process of writing a book.  I'm telling you all ahead of time because it motivates me to actually get it done.  I set a goal to be done by my birthday this year in October, so please hold me to that.  I thought you guys might be going just as crazy as I am and wanted to provide you with a few things you can do to keep your mind off of the horrors of the world right now, with everybody on your timeline engaging in spreading fear it’s kinda hard not to.  Hopefully you will find something on this small list that will help keep you sane.  1. Start A Book Club Now is the perfect time to enrich your mind! You have tons of friends with nothing to do right now. Reach out to the ones who like to read and s
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Cosmetic Surgery Taboos 02•28•2019

Cosmetic surgery.    What’s your stance on the subject? Do you think the stigma surrounding the subject is justified or do you believe it’s a bit excessive? I recently had a procedure performed and even though I knew I was going forward with the surgery for myself and that it was something I’d been wanting forever, I found myself lying to people about it, even treating it as if it was a secret and not telling certain people. It made me think, why is plastic surgery so taboo? When I was pregnant, I developed a bad case of anxiety that I wasn’t really able shake. If you’re a close friend of mine this is no secret to you. Starting with insomnia, my anxiety developed into full blown trichotillomania. I began to pull out hairs from my eyebrows and eyelashes. I was never treated for this condition, partially because mental health wasn’t really taught in school, for years I had no idea what anxiety was. Nobody was there to tell me what I was dealing with and in the black community we a
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Bridal Gang 101 08•19•2019

 I got to be apart of a beautiful union between two friends. I experienced being a bridesmaid for the first time. If you’ve never been married or ever been a bridesmaid/groom like myself, then 9 times out of 10 you have no idea what accepting that title entails.    Don’t fret! That’s why I’m here to try everything first and give you the do’s and don’ts after.  First things first. You need to go into this experience with the mindset that everything you are about to do is all for the bride and groom. Nothing about this experience is for you. A lot of people accept being a bridesmaid/groom and somewhere down the line the focus shifts from who the wedding is about creating all sorts of havoc. The bride/groom owe you nothing! By accepting the role in this union you are agreeing to take on all that comes with it.  As a bridesmaid/groom, you are required to buy your dress/tux and shoes. For women you will have to pay for you own hair, makeup and nail care. Some brides, however, pro
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Letter To My Younger Self 05•28•2019

Dear Sharniece, You’re about to be a mom soon so I wanted to write you a letter and hope it helps you further on down the line. That man that you are about to share this child with is going to change your life. There will be a number of challenges with him along the way and he will break your heart in more ways than one. You will probably die without your heart ever being mended from choices he’s going to make later on in life. Although I would like to tell you to wait until you’re married,    you chose who you chose and instead of gaining a life partner like you hoped, you gained a best friend and his family will be come your own. Prepare to guide your child alone, although the man you chose will provide financially, you will have to be a mother and father to your baby girl. If you can, get out of Milwaukee as soon as possible. Take a year or two to plan your relocation so that it is successful and choose somewhere affordable. The sooner you move the better education you can pr
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Single Mom Cliches 05•13•2019

In honor of Mommy May we thought it would be nice to laugh and debunk some of these single mother stereotypes. There’s so much out there to be said about single moms, mostly bad, but how much of it is true in 2019? Single moms of all races are flourishing. There are even women today who are choosing to be single moms for their own reasons. Instead of looking down on them you should be commending them. Below are some things we know to be false. Although there may be somethings that we didn’t identify with being a single mom, it doesn’t mean that others will read this and feel the same. Every situation is different.  Most single moms receive public assistance. While some moms receive some sort of assistance at the beginning of mommy hood, most of them don’t qualify for anything after they go back to work. Especially if they are middle class and receive the smallest amount of child support. We heard a saying before that said being middle class is worse than low class and tha
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